Sandra Dee and Bobby Darin:
"We're Having A Baby!"
This column, "Sandra Dee's Party Line", appeared in Movie Mirror Magazine September, 1961
I am going to tell you something
about becoming a mother
which I have learned in the last
few weeks. I have never read
it in a book. I even get the
feeling that it may be a secret
truth no mother has ever realized
before. I think it is one of the
happiest and most unexpected
surprises a woman can discover
during pregnancy. It is this:
Almost from the moment you
announce to your husband that
you are going to bear his child
you realize that nature is not only
allowing you to participate in a
glorious experience, but that nature
in her own subtle way begins also
to perform a remarkable transformation on the man you love.
You know how a husband is. He is
always with you. Always loving, always concerned. It doesn't always
show but it's there and because you
love him you can understand that he
loves you. And the wife, if she is a
good wife, attends to her husband.
She cooks his meals, keeps his house,
shares his disappointments and his
joys, makes him happy in every way
she can. This is the accepted conduct
of a married woman at home. Wives
wouldn't want it any other way. But
what a change has come over my
husband since we learned we're to
have a baby!
In the first place, he is just about
the best darned cook in town. His
Italian dishes are marvelous. He
serves steaks that would be the envy
of a French chef. He has suddenly
decided it's easier to refold the newspapers after reading them instead of
scattering the pages over half the
rug. The other night I went from the
dining room to the kitchen for a glass
of water.
"Sandra," said Bobby, "I don't want
you running around and exerting
yourself like that. If you want something, ask me. I'll get it."
That goes for anything I want to
do. If it requires more than two steps
I get scolded. "Take it easy, Sandra
... let me do it, ... never mind, I'll
get it ... don't get up ... sleep an
extra hour." All I have to do is look
like I'm going to exert myself and
Bobby is at my side, taking my arm,
serving me tea, but always as though
the privilege of waiting on me was
the most important thing in his life.
Honestly, sometimes I'm convinced
that it's worth having a baby just for
the happiness it has brought to Bobby. But, of course, having a child is
much more than that.
I can remember not too long ago
in this very column I tried to answer
letters from readers who asked how
different I felt the morning I woke
on my eighteenth birthday. I said that
nothing at all really happened, except
that I received gifts and cards and
happy wishes from my friends. It was
very nice. But it was nothing like I
had imagined it would be and frankly
I was disappointed.
Now, at long last, I know there is
a morning when a girl wakes up and
there is a change. She does feel different. She knows that God, in his
kindness, has touched her while she
slept and promised her the miracle
of motherhood.
I am telling you this because I have
received so many wonderful letters
from women who have had children
assuring me I have nothing to fear.
I have had to let them all know that
I am not afraid. I've told them that
instead I am eager, yearning as hard
as any woman can, for the day when
I will hold my baby in my arms.
Another circumstance that pleases
me so much is the fact that our child
will be born in December. At this
time no one can tell just what date it
will happen but that doesn't bother
me. What delights me is that the infant of our lives
will come in the middle of the happiest time of year,
during the joyful days when everyone is
brimming over with the feeling of
Thanksgiving and the spirit of
Christmas and the hope of the New
Year. How nice it will be to welcome a child to the world when people
are the kindest and merriest!
I guess I've been sounding as though
no other woman in the world ever had
a baby. I don't mean it that way. But
I want to sound like a girl who feels
wonderful, a girl who has finally discovered what it's like to be a woman.
And if anything that I've said does
give the impression that I am a little
dizzy with joy, why I guess that's the
way it is! My only excuse is that I
am so happy and I wanted to share
it with you.
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